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I’m going to be adopted or have been adopted

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Adopted child

We understand that adoption is life-long and that people who have been adopted, or who are going to be adopted, may need different levels of support at different stages of their life.

As a child who is going to be adopted, you may have lots of worries about being adopted and how this will affect your life. The most important thing to remember is that we are here to help.

As an adopted adult you may have many questions that you want answering, for example, you may be wondering what your birth family were like and why they couldn’t look after you. You may be at a stage where you want to look at your adoption files and begin to search, trace and possibly meet your birth family.

We can provide you with the support, information and guidance to meet the needs you may have. Use the expandable boxes below to find out more.

I am going to be adopted

Sometimes parents are unable to look after their children - for lots of different reasons. When this happens, some children go to live with adoptive families who become their new family. Every year, hundreds of children in England are adopted and go and live with their new adoptive families.

Your social worker and foster carer will talk to you about why you cannot live with your birth parents and will talk to you about the type of family you would like to be adopted by. Your adoptive family will visit you and get to know you before you go to live with them in your new home.

It is okay for you to miss your birth parents or other members of your family. Some children who are adopted still have family time with their birth family – your social worker will talk to you about this.

Who can I talk to about being adopted?

It can be scary going to live with a different family in a strange house. If you are not happy, don’t understand or upset, you can talk to someone who you trust. This might be a teacher, your social worker or maybe your foster carer.

If you don’t want to talk to them, there are lots of other people you could talk to like:

  • Your Independent Reviewing Officer whose job it is to make sure you are listened to.
  • The Children’s Commissioner for England, who has to make sure all children in England are listened to, contact them by visiting www.childrenscommissioner.gov.uk
  • The National Youth Advocacy Service, a charity who give information and support to children and young people. You can call them on 0151 649 8700 or info@nyas.net
  • ChildLine will listen to you and you can tell them your problems. Call them for free on 0800 11 11 or visit their website www.childline.org.uk
Adoption Teens ID

Adoption Teens ID (AT-ID) is a project for adopted teenagers who live in the Yorkshire and Humberside area and is open to teenagers from 13-18 years old. Teenagers can safely meet online or in person with other members.

After Adoption Yorkshire

After Adoption Yorkshire are a team of specialist workers who help individuals and families affected by adoption. They are an independent agency who provide adoption support services on our behalf.

They can provide you with support on the following areas:

  • Someone to talk to about your adoption.
  • Advice on finding your out about your birth family.
  • Assistance in obtaining your adoption records.

You can find out more details about After Adoption Yorkshire and how to contact them here: www.afteradoptionyorkshire.org.uk

PAC-UK

PAC-UK is an independent agency with a team of specialist workers who the Trust commissions to provide adoption support services on our behalf.

They can provide you with support on the following areas:

  • Someone to talk to about your adoption.
  • Advice on finding out about your birth family.
  • Assistance in obtaining your adoption records.
  • Support before or after a reunion.

You can find out more details about PAC-UK and how to contact them here: www.pac-uk.org

Tracing your Birth Family

If you have made the decision, or would like to trace your birth family, you can begin the process by contacting After Adoption Yorkshire or PAC UK. You can find out more on their websites: www.afteradoptionyorkshire.org.uk and www.pac-uk.org

Seeing your Records

If you want to see the information that is held about you, you have to approach the local authority (council) that was responsible for arranging your adoption, or the adoption of your child or relative. If you, or your child/relative was adopted through Doncaster Council you can request to view your files by contacting the Adoption team on 01302 737789 or emailing adoptions@doncaster.gov.uk

Further information, including a postal address, is available here: http://www.doncaster.gov.uk/services/adult-social-care/how-you-can-view-your-records

 

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